Spirituality on the Internet...Check out this site

Greetings of Love to All,
I found a wonderful Spirituality Network Site that really is quite nice, and truly if you are looking for many friends of like mind this is the place to go"


http://spiritualnetworks.com/


My page on the site is:
http://spiritualnetworks.com/Revtamabell/


Here you can make your profile, start a blog, add video's and pics, chat with friends, make lots of friends, advertise your work and join or make groups...really very massive site that can keep you occupied all day long, lol, if you have no work to do!!!

Marriage and Relationships...should you stay?

There are always plenty of relationship questions that come up in my therapy sessions. Although I try to spend more time focusing on the person who is seeking therapy, there is definately a time that we must consider the seeker in terms of his or her other relationships. It is not an easy question to answer, by any means, when things have gotten to the point that we begin to question whether the difficulties we experience in our current partnership are too much, or that the benefit may not balance out with the effort of trying to stay together...I have read alot on relationships and did plenty of study and research and it always seemed that the literature in a round about way would suggest doing a kind of 'pros and cons' of the relationship. Then I read some interesting work done, using a diagnostic question spread, to assist counselors in helping their clients to answer this difficult question for themselves. This is not to say that we the counselors do not give our feedback, we certainly must and do, but by asking the proper questions, our clients can also see more clearly, the truth for themselves...

 

Using these questions and statements below, I help to clarify in your mind and in your heart of hearts if your Relationship is worth saving or would it be better in the long run to end it now...In my practise I have clients answer these questions and together we explore the answers, to arrive at the truthful analysis and diagnosis of the present relationship.

 

The first way I ask a client to begin to analyze their current Romantic Relationship deals with looking back on when you were the happiest in your relationship. When thinking about the early days in your relationship today, do you truly feel they were really very good between you and your partner?

Next I ask my client if there has been any incident of physical violence in your relationship.

I ask if there has been a solid commitment to persue a course of action or a lifestyle that excludes your partner.

Another Question I ask is if there was a Spiritual Being or God, or Spiritual Law that indicated that it would be allright to leave your current relationship, would you feel relieved and have a sense that you could Finally end your relationship?

Even though you have problems within the relationship, can you say that you and your partner have a positive, pleasurable interest other than your children, that you both share? Do you look forward to sharing it still with your partner in the future? This must be something you both do together and while doing it, it must give you both a feeling of closeness at the time you are doing it.

I then ask my client to tell me if they see their partner as a basically nice, reasonable, intelligent, not too neurotic, okay to look at and most of the time they smells alright.

I question about the difficulty of getting your needs met in the relationship. I ask if your partner hits you with so many difficulties and objections even if it is a small request, and that no matter the need, do you feel it gets mashed down right away or if you do receive your need that getting it was such an effort it is really not worth the effort to get it.

Does it seem that your partner usually stops your attempts to bring up topics or raise questions about things you care about?

I ask if you have gotten to the point where if your partner says something, that you usually feel its more likely that he/she is lying rather than telling the truth.

Regardless of the good qualities, and stepping back from any kind of temporary anger or disappointment, do you genuinely like your partner and does it seem your partner likes you?

Are you feeling willing to give your partner more than you are giving already, and are you willing to do this the way things are between the two of you right now, without any expectation of being 'paid' back?

Do you both touch each other, and look forward to touching each other? Do you make the effort to touch each other?

Do you feel you have a unique sexual attraction to your partner?

Does your partner neither see nor admit things you have tried to tell him/her about things that are making the relationship too bad to stay in?

Is there something that your partner does making the relationship too bad to stay in, and that he/she acknowledges it but is unwilling to do anything about it?

With regard to the problem your partner has that makes you want to leave, have you tried to let it go, ignore it, stop letting it get to you? How successful were you at releasing it?

While you think about the problem affecting your relationship, does your partner not only acknowledge it, but is both willing and able to change?

Has your partner ever violated a basic 'boundary/rule' or bottom line of yours?...if my partner did.(fill in with your bottom line)....then I'd feel I'd have to leave the relationship. If my partner didnt do..(fill in with your bottom line).. then I'd feel I'd have to leave. If these things were true about my partner.(fill in with the things you know to be true about him/her)....then I'd feel I'd have to leave the relationship.

Tell me if there is a clear, passionately held difference between you two that has to do with the fundamental and basic shape, texture and quality of life as you actually experience it?

Now, in spite of the differences, can you say that deep down, in some respect that is important to you, that your partner is someone just like you in a way you can feel good about?

I then ask for a list...the things that you would look forward to in a new life when thinking about leaving-things you're afraid of in your new life that make you think about staying. For every thing you list, I ask you to ask yourself Is this true? Is this likely? Then ask What else is possible?, What is most likely?

With the new, more complete and realistic pieces of info about what it would be like if you left, have you discovered any new more probable realities that now make leaving seem impossible, hard to do or unpleasant to do?

And with your new more complete and realistic pieces of info about what it would be like if you left, have you discovered some new more probable reality that now makes leaving seem easier or more attractive, so that staying no longer feels desirable?

Has your partner conveyed by either saying, thinking, or implying that you are a nut/jerk/loser/idiot about parts of yourself that are important to you, that you have started to really become convinced of this, or are becoming even just numb to it?

When you think about your partner's disrespect, is it clear to you that you do everything possible to limit your contact with him/her except for times where you absolutely must interact? Do you find yourself trying to avoid being around him/her and the hurtful arguements that usually ensue?

Do you feel that your partner mostly shows concrete support for and genuine interest in things you are trying to do that are important for you?

In regard to anything that was done that caused hurt, pain and feelings of betrayal, do you feel that the pain and the damage has gotten less with time?

Is there on both your parts, the ability for genuine forgiveness in the relationship?

If there is a need that you have and it is reasonable, can you and your partner find a way to work it so that you get that need met without too much of a struggle?

Is there a need that you have that is so important, that to not get it met would mean your life would feel not satisfying? Are you discouraged because you feel you may never get that need met?

Thinking about how your partner acts, does it feel as though in getting close to you what he/she 's most interested in is subjecting you to his/her anger and criticism?

When you begin to talk about intimacy is there a battle over what intimacy is and how to get it?

Does the relationship create fun...do you have fun together?

Do you share goals, dreams, and do they extend into the life you have together?

If all the problems within your relationship were just completely solved miraculously today would you still feel unsure about whether to stay or to leave?

Ultimately, if we reason the answers to these questions and arrive at a place of honesty, we can come up with a solution, an answer...whether we should leave, or stay in a relationship that we perceive to be difficult. We know all relationships require work and are therefore difficult, but the 'bottom line' is that we should never lower our expectations to the point that we are no longer being true to ourselves.

Meetups

Greetings All....I am wondering how many here are actual members of the 'Meetups" groups? Any one have any good groups they belong to? I am specifically looking for Alternative Health and Spirituality, Metaphysical Meetups in the Dutchess County New York area...let me know...Love and Blessings to All! Rev. Tama

Spiritual Mind Treatments

A Spiritual Mind Treatment for experiencing Blessed and Perfect Health
I pray this treatment into being for those who are experiencing any Dis-ease in this life. This prayer has the power to Heal and to Change your Life: The Truth is that there is only One, one perfect Source, and one absolute Power. Call it Love, God,Life, Universal Goodness. It is the all powerful potential for perfection, and it is everywhere present, right now, through all time and space. That means it's present right here in your body (or the body of someone for whom you are desiring a healing). The entire power of the Universe is now focused through your attention as to the truth about your perfect health. From this higher standpoint, in full knowingness, I declare that every cell of your body now performs in perfect harmony. All cells are growing at the perfect rate, none too fast, none too slow. Whether it's blood pressure, heart function, cell growth, EVERYTHING in your body reveals the perfection of the Divine, right here, right now. You hold the vision of perfection at every moment and know that this vision and this declaration reveal themselves in the outside world as the visible wholeness and perfection that is the One. No one can shake your vision of perfect body function. You stand firm in the truth of Absolute Being. And so you release this declaration into the Law of Mind and know that the Law of Universal Correspondence now executes this word to the letter. You have nothing to do with how to make it work. You now know it just does. And so you release your prayer and know that your word returns fulfilled to you now. You will now let go and let God, and so you will rest in contentment, trust and peace. And so it is.

This is an example of one of my Spiritual Mind Treatments I do at my Office in the Spiritual Awareness Center.

What is a Spiritual Mind Treatment?

Based on the understanding that one's mind and beliefs create one's reality, this treatment process reframes the statements in the mind to create a new reality. Dr. Ernest Holmes book on The Science of Mind, speaks about how the individual mind interfaces with universal principles of manifestation to take one's thoughts and carry them into form. This was not too well understood 100 years ago but now, with Metaphysical Teachings, these ideas are more accepted and are also scientifically proven. Treatment is the tool of manifesting from beyond the physical, from beyond what you are currently experiencing in time and space. No longer is a person "doomed" to live with just those things he/she can see, hear, taste, smell and touch and the outer circumstances of one's life. What is now known is that a person lives with those things and ideas he can think and believe in his mind and in his heart. He lives with thoughts and beliefs within himself, and those thoughts can be consciously chosen. You can choose what you want to think and believe. The power to choose is yours.

There is an old expression that says "as above, so below" and "as within, so without". That is how it is with treatment - whatever you believe within, you project out into form. Treatment is the process of shifting your perception within so that what you are projecting outwardly becomes more harmonious and uplifting. When the shift inside is based on timeless spiritual principles, the change on the outside is in accordance with anyone's definition of God, Life , Truth, Nature, Love, Wholeness.

All spiritual paths support goodness, compassion, a loving and giving nature, abundance, kindness and the revelation of God's grace in the world. That is the objective of treatment, and it is effective because it refocuses the mind to these higher qualities and then projects them out into the world instead of the limited, contracted and negative thoughts one was previously using. That means that a person can choose kindness over meanness, for himself or for his boss. It means a wife can choose harmony in her marriage where before there may have been conflict. It means you can choose healing for yourself when you've been diagnosed with a serious disorder and expect to be healed.

How does it work?
Treatment has been simplified into a few simple steps. Some folks say five steps, some say four. Some say eight. Doesn't matter, as long as all the right stuff is in there and here it is:

Step 1 - RECOGNITION - Remove yourself from the problem long enough to remember your God. It doesn't matter what name you give it. It is whatever is beating your heart and making your breath go in and out. It is the life force that grows trees and makes butterflies. Whatever this Force is, you need to stop your drama long enough to get this ONE POWER into your awareness and to remember that it is the ONLY Cause to anything that is created.

Step 2 - UNIFICATION - If the Universe, the One Source, is the only cause of what you see, feel, think, touch, smell, to everything, it's the cause of YOU. It is your Source, your Power and It's being you. It breathes you, vibrates you, energizes you because it IS you! The energy of the Divine permeates all of its creation and that means it's being you too! Right now! Everything that is true of the Universal Whole is true of you, and that means you can be the inlet of the divine and the outlet of all the wonderful qualities and experiences you want in your life.

Step 3 - SPECIFICATION - Here's where you choose what you want, be it a quality of the divine such as love, joy, harmony, enthusiasm, vitality, peace, intelligence. Or it may be you choose an experience such as a new job that is fulfilling, or conceiving a child, or locating a new residence. They are all choices in the universal mind of the Infinite. You can choose anything, create anything. So choose something wonderful!
This is where you replace all your old thinking, the negativities, your doubts, fears and yeah-but's with statements of goodness, happiness and fulfillment. Just say it. Choose it.

Step 4 - RELEASE - Here's where you pass off the football to the universal principle that runs it into the end zone. It's called the Law of Mind, a law of the universe just like gravity and electricity. You can't see them, but they're working! And you'd better work with them rather than against them because you'll be inconvenienced to say the least if you don't use the laws correctly. So the Law of Mind is the miracle that takes your words and makes them so. Be careful what you wish for because you're GOING to get it. This Law takes your vision, your enthusiasm, your words and turns them into parking spaces, extra cash and instant healings according to your belief. So you let go and let God. You've made your choice for goodness and now you get out of the way and let the Universe figure out how to pull off your request. Making it happen is not your job. Your only job is to choose well. So you let go and TRUST the Law of Mind to bring it into form.

Step 5 - GRATITUDE - A little praise goes a long way to making life smoother. It also goes a long way to expediting your request, so please offer thanks for the blessing you've requested, because the Universe is now out busy creating it for you. The really great gift to you is that this principle of healing transformation works!!

Anyone can do a Spiritual Mind Treatment, but usually when one is in need of a treatment, they are often not centered enough at the present time to do it alone and need assistance. The important thing is that you should pick a practioner with experience and someone who does not judge and will go into the treatment with you unbiased about your circumstances. A Spiritual Mind Treatment done by a professional should be done several times a week, either with you present or remotely.

How can I receive a treatment?
Contact Rev. Tama Bell of the Spiritual Awareness Center in Poughkeepsie, New York
Rev. Tama Bell is a practitioner of treatment and offers counseling services with treatment work in person or on the phone. She may be reached by phone: (845) 849-1192 or by email at thespiritualawarenesscenter@gmail.com


Please visit the Center website for more information: http://thespiritualawarenesscenter.yolasite.com

Mindfulness and Meditation

~My Collection of Herkimer Crystals

Meditation

Blessings and Peace,

Daily Life Is Stressful...there is no way around that!

What about Meditation using Mindfulness? Have you ever tried that? Let's reason a bit.

I have found that meditation has become an important part of my daily practise as an effort to de-stress from life's pace. Meditation and being in the moment (also called 'Mindfulness' by Marsha Linehan) by developing what is called a 'teflon mind'- allowing feelings and thoughts to slip away, non judgementally...the purpose is to clear the mind, or slow the mind down from the racing thoughts that often come from our daily life experiences and stressors. Here, in this way, our mind is focused on ONEness (I will describe this further down in this blog post and is consistrently brought 'back' to the same sport, in one-ness, as often as it 'strays' toward more than one thought, other thought, and non focus...we try to become focused, within the moment, and on the moment...understand? Feel free to write to me about this technique.

I use it in my Counseling Practise and it works!
So lets Reason about Mindfulness~It means awareness...for example, you are currently aware of reading this post. You are also for instance, aware of the physical act of walking. Such AWARENESS occurs even before a thought, concept or a judgemental or other type of feeling arises.
Mindfulness enables our minds to be in the present moment and allows our minds to be synchronized with our bodies. Our bodies can only live in the present moment but our mind tends to dwell in the past or future. Instead of being in the present moment, our minds are worrying about future, thinking about the past, fantasizing, daydreaming, and thinking of other unrelated thoughts to what our bodies are doing in the present moment. It is all too common our minds are often absent in the present moment. (Try to see if your mind is in the car or in the shower next time you are driving, or having a shower.) We tend to do activities on autopilot (or without giving them much attention)- body is doing something but mind is often not there.

When our minds are absent in the present moment, our ability to understand and respond to the real world in the present moment is likely to be compromised and furthermore, our performance at work and play can also be compromised. When our minds are absent from the present moment and we do activities on autopilot, we are more likely to make an error. For example, about 57% of all car crashes were solely due to driver's negligence, driver error, intoxication and other human factors, while about 93% of all car crashes were partly or solely due to driver's negligence according to a study on British and American crash reports. Thus our ability to live in the present moment is important not only for ourselves but also for others.

Although we possess great wealth and are engaged in pleasant activities such as eating the finest food with the loved ones, we are still worried, depressed or agitated when our minds are absent from the present moment and worry about the future. Hence, an ability to live in the present moment is important whether we are eating, driving or at work.

Without mindfulness, we tend to make decisions on autopilot as well rather than based on what is the best for us. Being able to be here in the present moment gives us the opportunity and ability to consciously choose what is the best choice we can make. Life unfolds and is possible only in the present moment. When our minds are not in the present moment, we are not in touch with the real world. As a result, life can be very burdensome, stressful and confusing.

Being in the present moment allows us to be keep in touch with the real world and see things as they really are without distortion. When you can not perceive the reality as it is, you can not solve problem. Understanding or perceiving the reality as it is important no matter what you are trying to accomplish or gain. For example, developing better career or life; improving learning capability; enjoying your life or a meal; or reducing stress, anxiety and depression. Mindfulness is a powerful and beneficial capability we all have but we even do not realize we have it.

You should develop mindfulness not only for yourself but also for your loves ones. If your mind can not be here with your body at the present moment, you can not fully be alive but have to live like a zombie without freedom, and also you are unable to properly take care of yourself and your loved ones.

To strengthen your mindfulness, you should use mindfulness often or each moment in your daily activities. Mindfulness practice is a simple mental exercise that teaches us the ability to live in the present moment. In addition, mindfulness practice trains our minds with skill to objectively analyze the past and plan the future with clarity and unwavering concentration while maintaining awareness on the present moment. Mindfulness can be practiced while eating, walking, running, commuting, and doing other activities. Mindfulness practice is also called mindfulness meditation.

Scientists and other researchers verified or discovered numerous benefits of mindfulness. University of Massachusetts Medical Center Research and other researchers elsewhere have found mindfulness practice provides both physical and psychological benefits. Some of the benefits include: reducing stress, anxiety, panic, and depression; enhancing the immune system; reducing insomnia, gastrointestinal distress, high blood pressure and chronic pain; improving concentration; increasing creativity and self-acceptance; greater adaptability and flexibility to change; having a more relaxed attitude towards life; helping in the recovery of substance abuse and addiction; increasing regulation of emotion and thoughts; decreasing ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) behaviors and impulsivity; and slowing progression of HIV. Mindfulness has also been shown to be effective in helping people cope with a variety of conditions including chronic pain and demanding work or life situations.

Whatever you are doing, ask yourself, "What's the state of my mind?" - Dalai Lama, 1999

If you want to be happy, be. - henry David Thoreau

Afflictive emotions-our jealousy, anger, hatred, fear-can be put to an end, when you realize that these emotions are only temporary, that they always pass on like clouds in the sky-Dalai Lama

A New Day and Time

Artistic Sculpture by Dr. Fredrick Franck of Pacem en Terris

Warwick, New York

Greetings and Welcome,


We all hope that we will be discovering each new day, each new time period in our lives, with great joy and excitement don't we? We usually have good expectations, as we should...but often times we have such trouble realizing our blessings and goodness of the moment(s). The purpose of this blog is to have an interaction, so that together we can journey and achieve this joy, and excitement within our lives. Lets discuss, lets find out how we can obtain that joy, that paradise within our lives. I want to get to know you and for you to get to know me, with the hope that we can learn together how to walk toward self, and self knowledge. We are going to Heal Together, and that is my lifes work.


I am Rev. Tama Bell and I operate my home office for Metaphysical and Spiritual Counseling in Poughkeepsie, New York. Metaphysical Counseling is a kind of therapy that concerns itself with healing in a nontraditional way. This unconventional healing therapy focuses on the healing of Spirit, Mind and Body. The three areas are integrated into a whole, thereby assuring that healing takes place on all levels, in a complete way. One of the benefits of Metaphysical and Spiritual Counseling then, is a more in depth healing which is achieved sooner and lasts longer than the usual 'talk' therapy, because of the layered nature of the practice. It is truly an important collection of alternative and new thought modalities which will benefit you and bless you, bringing about a healing you never knew possible, and a strength that will keep increasing over time. I invite you to celebrate a Vibrant and Whole Life through my Metaphysical Practice and the Spiritual Awareness Center.


Blessings and More Peace
Rev. Tama